Decisions
Many people say things to themselves like, "Gee, I'd sure like to meet some girls", or "I wish I had a girlfriend". The problem with these thoughts is that they are wishy-washy. Statements like these lack commitment, they fail to create any motivation. Think about that, by saying " I'd like to.. " or " I wish.. ", you are telling yourself that it would be nice if these things happened, provided you don't have to do anything about it. These sorts of thoughts don't put any pressure on yourself to make it happen. If you really want to meet women and are serious about having a girlfriend or girlfriend(s) then you must decide to make it happen. Which is what this chapter is all about, Decisions.
The Power of a True Decision
Everything starts with a decision, it's a power we all have, yet so few people use that power. You can accomplish anything, no matter how corny that sounds, if you truly decide, nothing can stop you. While we all have this power of decisions, many people fail to take advantage of that power because they really treat decisions as preferences. They may say to themselves, " I am going to meet women ". When too often, what they are really saying is " I would prefer to meet women ". That's not a true decision. A True decision is when you absolutely commit yourself to something. You absolutely decide that you will no longer tolerate any behaviour that doesn't align itself with your decision. When you make a true decision, often times it means that you need to change the type of person that you are. A decision means that you will never return to those old habits or patterns that you decided to change, and I mean NEVER. There is no turning back from a true decision. So before you decide, think about your decision, consider the consequences of your choices. Finally, Decide! And don't ever look back. Granted there are times, when you need to make slight adjustments to your decisions, but the important thing is to stay focussed on the results you decided you wanted to achieve.
Now, you may be thinking, thats all great, but I've made decisions before and after a while, I didn't stick with it, I gave up, I lost my motivation. Again, my answer to this is that you really didn't make a TRUE decision, you may have thought you did, but it was probably something closer to a preference. The key to maintaining your motivation is to decide, never look back and come up with a plan for success.
It's up to you to be honest with yourself and never betray your true decisions in life.
You are responsible for your Decisions
You've already taken the first step in taking some action. You've read a little bit of this program, but you have to go further than that. If you go through this entire program and don't take any action, it's your failure, not mine. You obviously didn't make a true decision. I can't reach through these words and make you do anything. It's entirely in your hands. But I can guarantee you one thing. If you perform every task, really give the program your energy, commit yourself and make the decision to no longer tolerate being lonely, you will find success.
Get Prepared for your First Task
Before you proceed, I want you to be alone and undisturbed. Give yourself plenty of time to complete this next section because it's important that you do it all at once. If you need to take a break, now is the time to do it and return to the program when you are ready. You have a very important decision ahead of you. Perhaps one of the most important decisions of your life, so please make sure that you can pay this decision the time and attention that it demands.
Your task - Make a True Decision
Again, do not proceed until you are alone, undisturbed and have time. I'm really serious about this. Once you are ready, take a deep breath and continue. If what you are about to do feels strange or silly, that a good thing. That means you are starting to leave your regular old comfort zone and entering new territory, which means you are experiencing change!
OK, it's time. I hope that you are excited, maybe even a little nervous. A decision like this is an important one. Take your time.
Instructions:
Step 1) Two Choices
Read the two choices put before you. Read them out loud, it doesn't matter if it seems silly, just do it.
Choice 1:
I choose to continue using the same behaviours, patterns and reactions that I have been using all of my life. I will continue to hope that life will bring women to me, without me putting any effort into making it happen.
Choice 2: (Read in a Firm voice)
I choose to change my life to attract and meet women. I choose to have successful relationships with women. I will have great sex with women. I choose to make changes in my life so that women will be interested in me. I will retrain myself to be confident around women. I will no longer tolerate or accept loneliness as a part of my life.
Notice how reading those two choices made you feel. The first choice, probably leaves you feeling a little depressed and sad, while the second choice should have made you feel powerful and excited.
Step 2) Fork in the Road
Now, think about these choices as two paths on the road of your life. Imagine you are standing at a fork in the road. Pause and reflect upon both of those roads.
Step 3) Road to Loneliness
Think about what you life will be like if you simply continue in the same patterns and behaviours as you have all of your life. See yourself being lonely, and being frightened of approaching women, think of all of those times that you have failed in the past. See these as the things that lie down that lonely road.
When you are done thinking about your Road to Loneliness, I want you to write down some of the details about it in your journal. At the top of a fresh page, write the title, Road to Loneliness.
Step 4) Road to Being Confident with Women
Now think about how your life would be with you attracting women, having conversations with women, see yourself dancing with a beautiful woman, kissing, making love to women. Think about having women approaching you and being interested in you. Really take your time and think deeply about this, try to get a sense of achieving success with women and notice how it makes you feel.
When you are done, write at the top of a fresh page, the title, Road to Being Confident with Women. Then write down some of the details about your thoughts and feelings regarding this in your journal, just as you did for the Road to Loneliness.
Step 5) Consider
Consider both of these paths very, very carefully. Which of these paths makes you feel happier? Which makes you feel more powerful? I think we both know the obvious answer to that question.
Step 6) Decide!
Remember that once you make your decision, there is no exit from either road, if you can't make this decision now, you'll never make it.
Make your decision!
I decide that its too much effort to change, I'll stay as I am
I decide to be confident with women. I will do whatever it takes to achieve my goal.
