Time for some Fun!
This chapter is going to be fun. I want you to really enjoy this portion of the program, because the more enjoyment you get out of this, the easier your success is going to be. The first step after making a decision is to take action. Its very important to remember that you haven't made a true decision unless you take action. Well, the first action that we are going to start with, is to create a series of day dreams.
How will Day Dreams help?
The first thing that these day dreams are going to help you with, is to guide you to know what it is that you truly want. We are going to go through a process of creating day dreams about some of the things that you really want to experience in your encounters and relationships with women. By creating these day dreams, they will serve to provide you with some clues as to what you are truly looking for. From there we will create some goals, but that will come in the following chapters, so lets stay focused on day dreams for now.
The second thing that these day dreams are going to help you with, is to boost your self confidence. Remember what we learned in the Visualization chapter. Our mind doesn't know the difference between imagined reality and normal waking reality. By visualizing these day dreams it will help to boost your self confidence because your subconscious mind will be thinking that you have been in this situation before.
So when you day dream about approaching a girl, or kissing a beautiful woman, you are going to become more and more comfortable with that idea, its almost like fooling your subconscious into thinking its something that you do in your everyday life. It will help you to become more comfortable and boost your self confidence. This on its own isn't going to change you, its just one of the first steps so remember to keep an open mind, and go with it.
The third and final thing that day dreaming is going to help you with, is to provide momentum and energy to continue on your path towards success. When you day dream these fantasies, it's like getting a taste of your ultimate goal, inspiring you to keep pushing towards fulfilling that dream.
No limits, No boundaries!
Very soon, we are going to practise some imagination sessions, and the most important thing that I want you to keep in mind, is to not set ANY limits whatsoever. I want you to write down some ideas about what you want, and ignore any thoughts about how or if you could ever accomplish it. I don't care if you currently think that you could never kiss a beautiful woman on the first date. Don't worry about how you could make these fantasies come true. They are figments of your imagination. The point is to create a dream, or a fantasy, it has nothing to do with your current perception of reality.
Later when we set the goals derived from these fantasies, we will plan how to accomplish those goals. Don't cheat yourself with limitations right now. Allow yourself to dream things that you've always considered impossible. Let your imagination run free!
Another thing to keep in mind is that these day dreams aren't necessarily going to exactly represent your goals. They could be a version of your goals, but the specifics of them don't have to exactly be your goals. Don't worry about thoughts like, 'The woman in my fantasy has blue eyes and blonde hair, but maybe the right woman for me has brown eyes and black hair'. Don't worry about anything like that right now. Again, we aren't putting any limits on anything, we're just creating some fantasies.
Get Prepared
Grab your journal and a pen or pencil. If you prefer pencil, make sure you have a sharpener available, because we don't want to interrupt your flow of ideas with anything.
I want you to be alone and undisturbed, set aside at least 30 minutes to be totally be alone and focus all of your thoughts and energy on creating the perfect day dreams. Read each paragraph carefully and then write down everything that comes to your mind. Don't edit or allow your mind to censor anything, just write it down. When you are done writing these thoughts and ideas in your journal, I want you to vividly visualize it as a day dream. I want the visualization to be vividly engrained into your mind. You should be able to close your eyes and imagine everything in great detail.
Allow enough time per section, do NOT rush to the next Day Dream.
Your Task - Create some Day Dreams
Now lets get started. HAVE FUN! NO LIMITS!
Day Dream 1) Your Perfect Mate
In the Visualization Section of your journal, on a fresh page following your Road to Being Confident with Women visualization, write the title My Perfect Mate at the top of the page.
Now imagine that you had a magical power that made you the most desirable man in the world. Every woman on the planet adores you and just wants to be near you. (I told you this was going to be fun). Now think about what kind of woman would you choose out of all the women in the world? What kind of person would she be? What would be your favourite activities to do together? How would you feel about each other?
When you are done writing, read through the things that you wrote down. Then sit back, maybe play some relaxing music, and imagine her. Don't get too caught up in the visual details of her, like her hair or eye color, instead Visualize the sort of things you would do together, the conversations you would have. See her smiling at you, see her laughing with you. You wrote down things about what kind of person she is, so see her being that person, see how she talks to you, see her expressing her feelings for you. Write down how that makes you feel!
Write down any other details that you imagined. The purpose of writing these details in your journal is to serve as a reminder for the next time that you visualize Your Perfect Mate.
Day Dream 2) Your Perfect Date
On a fresh page in your journal, right after the page with the My Perfect Mate Day Dream, write the title, My Perfect Date at the top of the page.
Create the greatest date that you can possibly imagine. Write down everything that would happen during the greatest date of your life. Feel free to make it a date that lasts all day and night. Where would you go? What would you do? What would it be like? How would you feel?
When you are done writing your perfect date, read through it and day dream it as vividly as you can. See all of the details, really try to experience the date in your mind. If your date involves going to a restaurant, then imagine what the table looks like, what kind of restaurant is it. Remember to involve as many senses into the date as you can. Taste and smell the food, feel the touch of her hand on yours as you talk during dinner. The more senses you include the more vivid the daydream.
Write down any other details about the date that occurred to you during the visualization.
Day Dream 3) Your Perfect First Meeting
On a fresh page in your journal, right after the page with the My Perfect Date Day Dream, write the title, My Perfect First Meeting at the top of the page.
Now let your imagination create a scenario of you meeting a woman, and you both immediately hit it off. Imagine how that encounter would happen. Where would it be? What would she be wearing? What would you be wearing? Where would you meet her? What would you talk about? I know I said before that I don't want you to limit your imagination, but I do have one exception here. I want you to avoid creating a scenario where you meet a woman and you both immediately have sex. Instead, I want you to concentrate on the process of getting to know this woman.
When you are done writing, visualize this day dream. See yourselves meeting each other for the first time, experience everything, and incorporate as many of your senses as possible.
When you are done visualizing it, write down any new details that will jog your memory.
Day Dream 4) Your Perfect Fantasy
On a fresh page in your journal, right after the page with the My Perfect First Meeting, write the title, My Perfect Fantasy at the top of the page.
Express your deepest, most erotic fantasy. It don't matter how strange. Noone but yourself is ever going to see this (unless you choose to show it to someone). Ask yourself, what do you really want sexually? Maybe it's a threesome experience, maybe it's a sensual romantic night, or maybe it's the wildest, animal-like sex you can imagine.
Write it down, describe it in detail, don't hold back and feel no shame. This may have been a fantasy that you've daydreamed before, and that is completely OK.
When you are done writing it in your journal, Vividly imagine your erotic fantasy in detail.
Review
I hope you enjoyed creating these day dreams, if it was fun and exciting, then you did everything right.
We've accomplished more than you might think. But I don't want you to just write these day dreams in your journal and forget about them. It's important that these day dreams drive and inspire you, so I want you to practise daydreaming each of these fantasies whenever you have time. To many people this means that it never happens... it's so easy to just say that you'll get to it, but each day passes and you soon forget.
So what I want you to do is to set up a schedule. Every day you are to set aside at minimum 15 minutes to just day dream and visualize. But set aside this time to visualize just one of the day dreams, don't speed through all 4 day dreams in the 15 minutes. If you want to do them all, then spend 15 minutes on each one. Also, very importantly, don't just go through the motions of visualizing them, really really feel the experience, feel the joy, feel the happiness of it. Truly experiencing it in your mind, as intensely as possible, will give you the results you are after.
Daydreams and visualization are a very important part of the program, don't underestimate it!
Once you have finished adding these Day Dreams into your journal, it's time for a break, if you want you can go practise visualizing these day dreams as much as you want, but allow some time to pass before you move on to the next chapter. I want your mind fresh and rested for the next chapter.
