The Importance of Confidence
Women respond to confidence. Every woman wants a man who is confident and sure of himself. If you aren't confident in yourself, you probably already know this. If you've been too frightened to approach a woman, too scared to ask her to dance, or even just strike up a conversation, then you are lacking the confidence you need. Confidence is one of the most important qualities that you will need to achieve your goals.
Confidence vs. Fear
Confidence is the direct opposite of Fear. Think about that. If you are afraid of something, your performance severely suffers. If you are confident, then you are maximizing your inner resources to succeed. When you are completely confident in your ability, you only focus on your success, not even noticing the possibility of failure. In this confident state of mind, you have no fear.
The great thing about confidence, is that everyone is already confident in something. It may be something trivial like riding a bike, or tying your shoes, but none the less, you are confident in your ability to do those things. The trick is being able to cultivate confidence in the things that you currently don't feel confident about. The only thing holding you back from feeling confident, is your mind, and luckily that's something you can change. It's your mind, take control of it, make sure it's working for you.
Picture a weigh scale; on one side of the scale there is Fear, on the other, Confidence. We all have varying levels of fear and confidence in a variety of abilities. In some areas of our lives, the scale is completely tipped over to the confident side, while for others it may be tipped towards the fear side. What determines which direction the scale is tipped towards, is our past experiences, or more accurately, our interpretations of our past experiences. If we have had success in an area of our lives, then the scale is tipped towards confidence. If we have experienced some form of failure in something, causing the scale to tip over towards fear, then we have a choice. We can allow that fear to consume us, leaving the scale tipped towards fear, or we can choose to tip the scale to the confidence side.
You already made your choice about being confident with women. You chose to blow the dust off of that scale and tip it over to the confidence side. Now, you're going to ensure it stays there, permanently. So lets start tipping the scale now.
Cultivating Confidence
Confidence is something you can cultivate, and grow within yourself. It only takes a little success to start feeling confident. When you accomplish something and generate pleasure from it, you can't help but grow confident in your ability. It's getting over that initial hump that most people have trouble with. So to get over that initial hump, you're going to use the techniques I've already shown you. Remember how I told you that your mind interprets visualization as reality? That's how you get over that hump. You can start to tip that scale over towards confidence by generating success in your mind through visualization. It sounds too good to be true, but if you think about it, it makes sense. Confidence is a state of mind. By visualizing yourself in situations where you are succeeding, you are generating confidence. If you practise the visualizations and feel the emotions really strongly, they will work. Of course, eventually you are going to have to do it for real, but to start, you'll practise in your mind, providing you with enough confidence to get over your fear, and then allowing you to experience success in reality.
Generating Confidence from failure
When you are working on accomplishing your milestones, you will encounter times where you will experience failure, and that's completely OK, remember that it's all about your interpretation of that failure. You can choose to interpret failure as meaning that you will never succeed (which we both know is unreasonable), or you can interpret it to mean that you simply need to try again and again, perhaps changing your methods and approaches until you have success. In fact, you can even interpret those failures as little steps towards your ultimate success because you expect little failures to happen along your journey so them simply mean you are taking steps forward. Every time you experience these failures, you'll be able to move past it and keep pushing on. Through the act of not allowing failure and fear to consume you, you will gain confidence in yourself, knowing that you will never, ever, give up. You have made a True Decision, and you will keep walking its path, until you have achieved your goal.
Time to get the Show on the Road
It's time to tie this program together, and start you on your path to your new life. So lets move right into the next chapter, your plan
